“Integrity is choosing courage over comfort, choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; and choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them.” ~Brene Brown
I have never really considered myself a “courageous” person. I rarely take risks, I generally like to play it safe. I like comfortable. I like routine. I thrive better that way. However, I do take living with integrity and living by my values as very important. This has forced me to “choose courage over comfort” as Brene says, numerous times in my life. My integrity and my values are very important to me. And so, if I want to respect those things, I have to live that way. I can’t compromise. Simply saying, “I am a loyal friend” means nothing unless I am practicing that. Saying I value relationships means nothing unless ‘I am showing up in these relationships, in good times and bad.
Living this way takes immense courage. I don’t mean the type of courage to go on a sailboat ride when you are scared of the water, or fly in a plane when you are terrified of flying. Although there are similarities in this type of courage, I’m talking about the courage to continue to show up for the people in our lives. Courage to forgive an offense. Courage to take a deep breath and think the best of someone. Courage to not let our hurts and past get in the way of a right now relationship. Courage to open ourselves up and dig deeper when you don’t think you can show up emotionally for that person any more. It takes immense courage.
However, what is the flip side? Sacrificing our values? Not living with integrity? I’d rather choose courage, choose the right, choose integrity and choose my values over a half assed attempt at courage.
You can’t get to courage without walking through vulnerability. ~Brene Brown